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Family Tools: Family Recovery

August 2022

The Lifeline Works

988_FAQ_Flyer_Page_1.jpgAre you or someone you know having thoughts of suicide or experiencing a mental health or substance use crisis? 988 connects you to compassionate, confidential support for free. 988 is the new three-digit dialing code for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. For years, the Lifeline – formerly known as the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline –has answered tens of millions of calls and helped people overcome mental health-related distress. 988 is the same trusted resource. When you call, text, or chat 988, you’ll be quickly connected to trained crisis counselors who will listen to your concerns, provide support, and get you additional help if needed. There is HOPE. The Lifeline WORKS. You are not alone in crisis. Just call 988.


August 2022

Get to Know Al-Anon 

al-anon.jpgWho are the Al-Anon members? Al-Anon members are people, just like you, who are worried about someone with a drinking problem. With our continuing challenges today, shares many Al-Anon groups have worked to find ways to continue to meet and support those who have elected online. If you are a newcomer to this support organization, Al-Anon has a link to help you access the support through in person or online. Taking care of yourself is as important for you as a recovery journey is for your loved one.

To learn more, visit


July 2022

What is Addiction?

smoking-64925_1920.jpgAddiction, clinically referred to as a substance use disorder, is a complex disease of the brain and body that involves compulsive use of one or more substances despite serious health and social consequences.

Addiction is defined as a disease. Addiction is caused by a combination of behavioral, psychological, environmental and biological factors. Genetic risk factors account for about half of the risk that an individual will develop addiction. Addiction involves changes in the functioning of the brain and body due to persistent use of substances. The consequences of untreated addiction often include other physical and mental health disorders that require medical attention. If left untreated over time, addiction becomes more severe, disabling and life-threatening. For more information. 

Is Addiction a Disease? | Partnership to End Addiction - Partnership to End Addiction (

July 2022


skills-g733a63118_1920.jpgAs a parent/caregiver one of your most important goals is to build responsible children who become successful adults. The Child Development Institute offers some information to help you in that teaching role. They recommend the following as a guide.

  • Treat your child with respect and care.
  • Reinforce the positive.
  • Share household tasks and chores.
  • Teach money management skills.
  • Allow your child to face natural consequences and learn from mistakes.
  • When teaching your child a new behavior, give clear simple instructions. Be specific about your instructions.
  • Don’t let your child off the hook if they misbehave in school.
  • Give your child some space and freedom.

Visit: How to Teach Your Child to Be More Responsible | Parenting (


July 2022

Prevent Child Abuse 

7_July_20_Ways_crying_baby.jpgAs part of a healthy recovery journey, learning tools to become a caring and responsive parent is vital. Prevent child Abuse Illinois has many tools to support families in the journey. Crying Babies can be very stressful for all and learning there are effective ways to cope is exciting for new Moms and Dads.

For more information visit

July 2022

College time at Home

college.jpgSummer is a great time to reconnect with your college student as they enjoy some much-needed rest. Young adults are experiencing mental health challenges at an increasingly concerning rate. As it turns out, there are a lot of actions to address these concerns. Be aware, in regards to the mental health, heavy drinking may sometimes be a way to cope for our students. Learn more about how to reconnect with your student and use the slower pace to build on protective factors.

Visit: College Parents Matter: Summer Quarterly Newsletter (  

June 2022

0-3_info.pngAs we move forward and recognize the importance of early healthy mental health foundation being built, check out the information 

May 2022

Caring for Your Wellness 

danceing.jpgIf you are a family member living in the chaos of substance use, take a minute each morning and dance. Movement of the mind and body challenges and generates your journey to health and wellness. Taking care of yourself and family is vital to navigate the chaos.

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April 2022

Support Your Teens Recovery Journey

teenandmomtalking_gallery.jpgWhen a teen is participating in a program to address Substance Use Disorder (SUD), managing the issues related to the rules or guidelines of the household may become challenging. As a parent, it is significant for your teenager to accept rules that support ongoing recovery and a healthy life style. The research indicates that teens value their parent’s attitudes and beliefs about substance use. With recovery as the goal, it is important for families to establish rules that are consistent, clear, and understood by the teen. Dr. Christopher Hammond from John Hopkins Hospital, offers tips for setting “new” household rules in the article Resetting Household Rules Important for Teens With Substance Use Disorders. He identifies the most important rule to be the rule of no use of substances. He recommends rules be clearly explained as it is necessary to keep teens safe and healthy. The clause, found on the Partnership for Drug-Free Kids website, also contains other suggestions to serve you, the parent, in your support of your young person on the recovery journey. By going through these suggestions, your entire family will benefit with a firmer and healthier relationship.

To learn about Dr. Hammond’s suggestions, take a look at the article on

February 2022

Tell Your Story 

journey_to_recovery_graphic.jpgSometimes understanding the chaos of being in a family or relationship with someone experiencing substance use disorder (SUDs) is overwhelming. AND, sometimes something as simple as listening to other’s personal stories may help you through the roughest times. The Partnership to End Addiction offers a group of personal stories on their website. Take a minute to cruise the personal stories of those on a recovery journey if you are a person with SUDs or impacted as a family person. Learn you are not alone.


January 2022

al-anon.jpg“I didn’t Cause it;” “I can’t Control it;” “I can’t Cure it.”

If you have a family member or a good friend experiencing a substance use disorder (SUD’s), there is most likely chaos in your life. Sometimes it is a good idea to revisit lessons learned by those who have had the experience before you. Remembering the three C’s may assist you to manage and move through the chaos. As we continue through the COVID-19 issues, it is easy for those not in a relationship with an active substance using person to forget what the stress, worry and anxiety may be. Since we know persons with SUD’s impact others’ lives, it becomes even more important for us to find support from others. Learning what SUD’s is and how it progresses will help you understand that you did not CAUSE the substance use no matter what your family member may accuse you of. As you move forward you most likely have tried some strategies to CONTROL your family members use, but without success. If you believe their continued use is your “fault,” learn that this is not your failure. Understanding that SUD’s is a chronic disease and there is no CURE that you that can solve the issue. However, know a healthy recovery journey is possible for both your family member and for you. A healthy recovery is a lifelong process and is most successful with the support of 12-Step meetings or other recovery self-help groups. However, an important first step to consider is family treatment provided by a trained SUD’s treatment provider. Take this opportunity to learn and to move forward. Treatment is available virtually in even in our current environment. BE SAFE.

January 2022

Taking Care of the Future 

mom-2208928_1920.jpgAre you a new mom-to-be? Are you on a substance use disorder (SUD’s) recovery journey? Are you still smoking cigarettes as part of your recovery? If so, take a few minutes to learn some important information about smoking and pregnancy. Since cigarette use is often one of the last substances a person early in recovery is ready to address, let’s explore. If you have questions such as:

  • Can cigarette smoke increase the chance for a miscarriage?
  • Can smoking cigarettes during my pregnancy cause a birth defect?
  • If I continue to smoke cigarettes at the end of my pregnancy, could my baby to have withdrawal after birth?
  • Can I smoke cigarettes when I am breastfeeding?

The MotherToBaby webpage has some responses to these and many other questions. To help you or those you love have a healthy and fun pregnancy experience, visit Be healthy, be aware and be safe for you and your baby.

December 2021

Finding Help 

  • Are you seeking substance abuse treatment information for a teen or young adult?
  • Are you experiencing problems with finding the best “fit” for your family member?
  • Are you disheartened and mixed up about what questions to ask regarding a treatment program?

As a parent and/or other family member, it is not unusual to be experiencing the above issues. Addressing treatment needs is a confusing experience amid the experience of living with addiction in the family. As a parent or significant other, knowing there are resources available to help you focus on the task of seeking help in support of your family member for treatment and recovery. Remember, one of the most important things you can do for your family is to ask the right questions that help you understand the program theory, their approach to recovery and how they address family involvement. This allows you to compare and select the most effective services for your family. TRI Science Addiction and the Partnership for Drug-Free Kids has developed a guide for parents seeking a substance abuse program for their teen or young adult. The guide was developed through a grant fund from the National Institute on Drug Abuse. The 35 page booklet provides hints for gathering information and worksheets to support the use of suggested questions. The booklet can be found at:

As you begin the search, be aware the Illinois Division of Alcoholism and Substance Abuse (DASA) is the agency responsible for overseeing the licensure of treatment facilities providing services throughout Illinois. The DASA website will provide you with a directory of licensed facilities by city and county. Look at the services offered near you and begin your search for the best treatment services for you and your family. To access the directory click on: