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The Circle of Care Online Resource Toolkit

To help foster well-prepared circles of care in all communities, the Circle of Care has collected practical resources from national experts on children’s experience of loss, grief, and the effects of substance use disorders (SUD) on families.

Life in a substance-affected family can be painful and isolating for children and teens, and the experience of loss and grief adds many more layers of fear, distress, and complexity. Connection with even one understanding, compassionate adult in the family or community can make all the difference. Professional, volunteer, neighbor, family member—it might be anyone who takes the time to listen, learn, understand, and respond in safe and effective ways.

The collections of web-based resources you can access through this site are organized in four main categories:

  • A sampling of resources in three age-specific collections
  • Three collections offering deeper insights into the lives and support of children who struggle with grief in substance-affected families
  • Three ways of expanding the reach of our efforts
  • Information about children's books on grief and related topics, organized in four age ranges 

We have linked to individual resources developed by 18 extraordinary organizations, including the Centre on Addiction and Mental Health, the Child Mind Institute, the Dougy Center, the Elizabeth Hospice, the Eluna Network, Families Rising, Good Grief, GriefSucks.com, the Grieving Students Organization, Judi's House/Jag Institute, the National Alliance for Children's Grief,  the National Association for Children of Addiction, the National Center for School Crisis, the National Child Traumatic Stress Network, Psychology Today, the Sesame Workshop, and Wayfinder Family Co.  We highly recommend that you also take some time to explore the many free resources available on the websites of these organizations.  

The resources linked to in this Toolkit are solely the products and property of the organizations that have posted them, and those organizations bear no responsibility for the content of this toolkit or this website.


Resources in Three Collections by Children's Ages

This Toolkit starts with a selection of national resources organized by the ages, developmental levels, and reading levels of the children you support. Within these three collections you will find resources with information about children, grief, the supporter’s role, kids’ experiences, and age-appropriate activities.

Very Young Children (0-5)

"Anyone old enough to love is old enough to grieve." (Alan Wolfelt, PhD)

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Grade School Children (6-12)

What are they not ready to say, but they still want us—or need us—to know?

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Teens (13-18)

How do they navigate the turbulence of being a teen in a troubled family, and grieving serious losses?

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A Deeper Dive into Loss, Grief, and Support

Children’s grief is affected, not only by the loss of loved ones, but also by the other sources of stress, trauma, pain, shame, fear, anger, confusion, and loss in their lives. Appreciating the depth of these complexities can make the supporter’s efforts safer and more effective.

Substance-Affected Families

Each family is different, but it's helpful to recognize some challenges that are common in families affected by substances.

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When Life Complicates Grief

The grieving process can be as complicated as the lives affected by it. The most effective supporters appreciate these complexities.

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Being a More Effective Supporter

Collection of resources to help supporters listen with greater empathy and build skills and confidence

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Expanding the Reach of Resources

So many children have been left to struggle alone with loss, grief, and the effects of substances on their families. That’s because so many adults in their lives haven’t known what to say—or whether it was even safe to say anything. The better you know the resources that are out there, the better prepared you are to support vulnerable children and teens—and to pass these resources on to other natural helpers in your community.

Including Everyone

This is for supporters who want to learn more about the populations they serve.

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Recursos en EspanolĀ 

This is our collection of links to national resources translated into Spanish.

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National Resource Websites

 Tools from many national organizations

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Children's Books on Loss, Grief, and Healing

Along with the free resources linked to in the rest of this Toolkit, there are also many wonderful illustrated children’s books on loss, grief, and healing available from commercial booksellers.  This section introduces you to a large selection of those books. Rather than take you to one of the many buying options, “VIEW” will take you to a page with the book’s title, author/illustrator, publisher, and year of publication.

Books for Babies and Preschoolers

The seeds of self-compassion and self-comfort are best planted in the very early years. They give rise to hope and resilience.

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Books that Span Preschool and Grade School

As children grow into their lives and their roles in their families and communities, these books can help them find their way.

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Books for Grade School Kids

The stories children find in books are vital components of growth and discovery. Children learn that they are already strong and that love can live beyond loss.

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Books for Middle and High School Students

In the teen years, learning about loss and grief can lay the groundwork for lifelong resilience and wisdom.

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Acknowledgements

In this toolkit we have linked to individual resources developed by 17 extraordinary organizations, including:

We highly recommend that you also take some time to explore the many free resources available on the websites of these organizations.

Ownership and Responsibility

The resources linked to in this Toolkit are solely the products and property of the organizations that have posted them. Beyond their own resources, those organizations bear no responsibility for the content of this toolkit or this website.