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Resources for and About Grade School Kids (Ages 6-12)

Adults often feel helpless when grade school-aged children are experiencing loss and grief.  We know they must be suffering, but we don’t know how much they know, how much they understand, what to say, what not to say, what would be helpful, or how to avoid making things worse.  The stigma of substance use disorder, with all its shame and “no-talk” rules, makes the adult supporter’s role even more difficult.

Clicking on the "VIEW HERE" buttons in the boxes below will take you to resources developed by national experts, and some of them by children who have experienced profound loss and grief and found great resilience.  These resources include checklists, podcasts, videos, infographics, articles, booklets, and activities.  The activities are particularly important, because children learn and integrate their experiences through play.  What you learn on this journey might make your support for kids safer and more effective.

About Grade School Kids

Developmental Differences

"Developmental Differences in Understanding & Reacting to Death," from Judi's House/JAG Institute

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Elementary School Children

A "Grief by Age" article on grade school-aged children, from the Eluna Network

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Nurturing Resilience

Guidelines for supporters of grieving children, from the Wayfinder Family Co.

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The Supporter's Role

Sharing With Your Child After a Loss

For Parents and Other Supporters, from the Wayfinder Family Co.

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"Listening on Repeat"

A listening guide for adults, from the National Alliance for Children's Grief

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Grief Talk: Listening

An in-depth talk on listening from the National Alliance for Children's Grief

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About Grief

The Griever's Bill of Rights

Poster and activity ideas for children and teens, from the Eluna Network

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All the Pieces

All the Pieces:  When a Loved One Dies from Substance Use (Hallie Riggs video from the APA.

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Grieving a Substance-Related Death

Tips from the National Alliance for Children's Grief

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In the Words of Kids Who Have Experienced Grief

Grief Feels Like

Highly creative animated video in the words of kids and teens, from the Dougy Center

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Let's Hear it for the Kids

Video from the Dougy Center, in the words and voices of children and teens

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Their Stories: Traci, Amira, and Alina

From the Dougy Center's "Road to Resilience" series. 

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Age-Appropriate Activities

Your Grief is Unique

Worksheet for children and teens, from the Eluna Network

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Create a Support Chain

Activity making a paper chain of supporters, from the Dougy Center.

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Hard Days Safety Plan

A self-care worksheet that kids can fill out, from the Dougy Center

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Grief Creature

A drawing/coloring activity that children can use to express their grief, from the Dougy Center

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Six-Word Poem

A creative exploration activity from the Dougy Center that gives children many ways to describe grief.

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Tools for Kids

A series of tools for children from troubled families, from the National Association for Children of Addiction

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